I discovered it about ten years ago. While trying to figure out what the heck I wanted to do with my life I stumbled upon the happiness equation. As I’ve stated in past blogs math is definitely not a strong point of mine, but this equation didn’t require me to cheat off the person next to me.
The first part of the happiness equation is understanding that you’re the problem. Yes you.
Your happiness depends solely on the person you see every day in the mirror. No matter what happens to you, your response to it is what will ultimately determine your happiness or lack thereof. Ten years ago I had a career ending injury that derailed a dream of mine that I wanted more than anything else in the world. My response to it was to move on and figure out what’s next. I could have easily responded to that situation by wearing black for the rest of my life, locking myself in my room, and mourning the situation instead of moving on from it. It was my choice and no one else’s. Knowing that you have that power of choice is a huge part of being happy.
The next part of the equation kind of just happened for me. I found my passion when I was sixteen years old. I found basketball it didn’t find me. Basketball was not walking around with a picture of me asking people if they knew this person. I found my passion randomly hanging out at my grandmother’s house one summer. If I could go back right now and tell young Cornell that basketball would be what he would do for the rest of his life, he probably would have looked at me like I was crazy. Which would be kind of ironic being that he would be the one with the Mc.Hammer pants, and the hair cut that looked like an eraser. Doing what your passionate about is not only what makes you happy it keeps you happy.
Have you ever seen anyone eat ice cream with an angry face? Of course not because ice cream makes people happy. It’s called a “comfort food” for a reason. It consoles you, it makes you forget about having a bad day even if it’s only for the five minutes it takes you to inhale that sundae. That’s what doing what you’re passionate about is like. Even on my worse days coaching or training kids I can find something good that happened. I can also tell myself, “Hey jackass you just did basketball for 10 hours not lay tile in ninety degree heat, get over it”. People that do what their passionate about are always smiling, how could you not be when you love what you do.
The last part of the equation is Purpose. I’d say one in every one million people on the planet can truthfully answer what their purpose is. This is the part of the equation where you make pretend to type something on the calculator while simultaneously trying to figure out if anyone else in the room has the answer. The definition of the word purpose is ”the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exist”. Why are we here? Is it to wake up, go to work, come home, sleep and repeat? Is that the sole purpose for us inhabiting the planet? I refuse to believe this; I think we’re all here for a reason we just have to discover what that is.
I’m here to help people that’s my purpose in life. I thought it was playing basketball but that only would have helped me and that’s not my mission. When you know your purpose you’ll always have a reason to live. There’s no greater feeling than knowing why you’re here. If I can make an impact on people lives every day and provide for my family I’m good to go. Don’t spend your whole life figuring out why you’re here, just know that there’s a reason that you are.
The happiness equation starts with you. It then involves you finding out your passion in life and discovering your purpose. You do those three things and you’ll be eating ice cream every day.